Friday, July 10, 2015

Oh that woman at the Dollar General yelling at her kids!!!!

Parents- for future reference:
If you scream at your child in a public place (and privately for that matter) then do not be surprised 8-10 years down the road when that said child- screams back. And don't wonder why that child 1) doesn't know how to control their emotions, their anger or their mouth 2) doesn't respect you.
Just take a GOOD LOOONNNNNGGGG look in the mirror. It's called learned behavior.
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  • Crystal Pridgeon Berry Seriously. I struggled hard with this bc I am loud anyways. It is work. I catch myself getting to that point before it happens.
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  • Starla Ellison Crystal Pridgeon Berry- I'm a former yeller. I completely understand. I hate that I was like that- but like I said, it was learned behavior- I didn't know any other way to communicate or get results (except through fear and intimidation). I had no idea how to even control MY emotions, anger or mouth. But that is NOT how God wanted me to mother my children. Then when God began to speak into me 7 years ago, He completely changed how I respond and react. I had to get to the root of WHY I behaved that way. Life is much more peaceful for me and my kids now : )

Freedom in Christ by our very own Kaitlyn Pianella!



By Kaitlyn Pianella

July 3, 2012 is a day I will remember for the rest of my life. That day marked the end of a yearlong fiery trial God used to humble me, stretch me, and grow me into a deeper intimacy with Him. My husband, SSGT Chad Pianella, was coming home from a 12-month deployment in Afghanistan with the South Carolina National Guard. We sacrificed a lot for our beautiful state and our great nation. Chad deployed ten months into our marriage, when I was four months pregnant with our first child. We found out three weeks before he mobilized that we were having a baby boy. Chad came home for two weeks of rest and relaxation the day before Titus was born, and returned to Afghanistan the day Titus turned two weeks old. He and Titus got to rekindle their father-son bond a few weeks before Titus turned eight months old.
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During the deployment I struggled with others’ lack of empathy toward military families and the sacrifices they were making for others’ freedoms. My heart was cold in the beginning towards those we were fighting against, but God quickly softened it. I could have spent that year harboring anger and resentment, feeling like I had been cheated because I spent my first wedding anniversary alone and pregnant, and my firstborn’s milestones were celebrated without his father.   Instead, God used all those undesirable events to humble me and isolate me so I could experience freedom in knowing Jesus as the source of my love, acceptance, worth and security.
“For you are all children of God through faith. And now that the Way of faith has come, we no longer need the law as our guardian. For you are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus. And all who have been united with Christ in baptism have put on Christ, like putting on new clothes.” (Galatians 3:24-27, NLT).
Paul writes that the law was our guardian until the Way of faith came. The law was given to show us that we were sinners. The law’s intent was never to save us, but to point us to the One who would save us. It is through belief in Christ and what He has done for us that freedom is found. Once we have placed our faith in Christ, we are given Jesus’ identity. It’s like putting on new clothes. We have a new nature, Christ’s nature. We are a new creation. Therefore we are considered children of God. 
Recently my beautiful state was terrorized by someone who was deeply disturbed and blinded by hate. This individual took nine precious Christ-followers’ lives in their place of worship on a Wednesday night in Charleston, SC. The attack took place four hours away from me, and I had spent the four days prior in the perpetrator’s hometown of Columbia, SC. I pondered if I could have been in the same department stores and service stations as he. He was arrested the next day, an hour away from my home. Saturday evening after the attack, my family of four and I were eating at a Chinese restaurant, and an African American lady wearing a purple shirt walked in and gave me a huge smile. Immediately, I heard in my heart, “I wish I could hug her.” 
She ordered her food and sat across from my family. In the midst of our dinner my body got up, and I started asking the Lord if He was really calling me to do what I thought He was. I approached the woman, whose shirt read “The Color Purple.” I bent down and asked, “Do you mind if I hug you?” I bawled as we embraced and she prayed aloud over me, “Father comfort her heart and release her from whatever is weighing her down.” I agreed with her in spirit and expressed that He already had, and that I was so sorry for everything that had happened this week, and she whispered, “Oh, sweetie, soon everyone will know.” I replied with more sobs, “I knew you knew it was more than a skin issue.” Again she replied, “Soon the whole world will know.”
“There is no longer Jew or Gentile, slave or free, male and female. For you are all one in Christ Jesus. And now that you belong to Christ, you are the true children of Abraham. You are his heirs, and God’s promise to Abraham belongs to you.” (Galatians 3:28-29, NLT).
There are no more races. Skin and bloodline are no longer the issue. Who we are born of, born as, or work for does not define us. We are born of the Spirit. We are a new creation, new nation, a new people in Christ. There are only two types of people that now exist. There are believers and non-believers. Believers are those who are found in Christ, and non-believers are those who have not placed their trust in Christ. I will take it further. Just because you are “good” and do good things does not mean that you are found in Christ.
“For if you are trying to make yourselves right with God by keeping the law, you have been cut off from Christ! You have fallen away from God’s grace. But we who live by the Spirit eagerly wait to receive by faith the righteousness God has promised to us. For when we place our faith in Christ Jesus, there is no benefit in being circumcised or being uncircumcised. What is important is faith expressing itself in love.” (Galatians 5:4-6, NLT).
We cheapen grace and God’s power to redeem, restore, and resurrect us to a new life when we try to earn His favor. Freedom is found in Christ. True freedom lies in trusting that Christ’s life was a fulfillment of the law given to acknowledge our need for Him. . .that His death on the cross paid for our sin. . .that His burial and resurrection gave you His identity and His life in and through you. Just like the lady in the Chinese restaurant said, soon everyone will know. The family members of the Mother Emmanuel AME Church displayed the power of the freedom found in Christ as they graciously asked the one who had wronged them to turn to Him. Freedom found in Christ causes the military spouse’s heart to pray for other hearts to turn to Christ in the places her soldier’s boots touch.
Are you experiencing the freedom Christ came to give you? Please tell us about it in the comments.
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About Kaitlyn Pianella

Kaitlyn Pianella is a busy young woman after God’s own heart. She is a SC native who enjoys the daily life adventures the Lord guides her through as she is conformed to the image of His Son. Her adventures include changing her toddler Ivey, while chasing her preschooler Titus, and wrangling her English Springer Spaniel Banjo. She works as a Cosmetologist, Blogger, and Children’s Director. One of her most challenging yet purposeful adventures has been her 6 year marriage as a military wife to Staff Sergeant Chad Pianella. Kaitlyn is confident in her purpose to speak Gospel truth and love into women of all ages using her God given witty sense of humor and her spiritual gifts of exhortation, shepherding, and teaching. You can find her blogging at CuttingUpWithKaitlyn.com and

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My Connie

I take so much in life for granted. We all do. We just expect things to always be the same, never to change. But life is all about change, change is continually happening. Sometimes we can see the change, sometimes we can't.
Yesterday after work, something that has never happened before- happened. Some of you are going to think- well, that is so silly. But to me it was first time experience.
Yesterday my Connie came over and swam in the pool with Allison and me. We just kind of swam around and talked and laughed. So, what's the big deal about that?
Connie is the mother of my adulthood. She is my mentor, my prayer warrior, best friend, a grandmother to our children. She is realistic, honest, devout, fun-loving- and trusts God. She seeks to know Him more intimately, daily. She loves Him.
And yesterday- she came over and for the first time in my life I went swimming with my mother and my daughter. Just us- floating around the pool. Whole. Healed.
Psalm 37:4
Delight yourself in the Lord;
And He will give you the desires of your heart.

Tuesday, July 7, 2015

Indeed.....

2 Timothy 3:12
Indeed, all who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus will be persecuted.

Sunday, July 5, 2015

July 2-5, 2015

Cruising down the interstate to Nick and Jack Wagner serenade "Lady of My Heart" to me- less than an hour we will back home in SC.  The last four days have been go-go-go! Hiking, celebrating,kids,eating, traveling, seeing many, many, many family and friends, eating, running, being tourists, DISHES, hugging, laughing, more celebrating, eating and traveling= wonderful and exhausting. 

This old girl is- about to her limit.

 And is blessed!

Thursday, July 2, 2015

Proverbs 5:18 Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth.


Today Nick and I have been married 27 years..it sounds like a long time but in reality- it has went by so fast. Last Sunday in Sunday School, Ann Johnson said that she and Paul's 57th anniversary was the day before- you could hear the- "missing him"- in her voice. They had been married 30 years when Nick and I married! Then another couple said it was their 12th anniversary- really, still just starting out.
Marriage is a sacred covenant between two people. It takes two people giving. Not two people taking- or even one for that matter. Two people giving and yielding to one another. It is NOT easy. You have to give up your rights- for the sake of another. Both, giving up rights- daily, continually.
I guess the two things that have made our marriage what it is today is:
1) Jesus- the center of our marriage. We are two very different people- and our individual relationship and intimacy with Christ is different. And still yet- He is the Oneness and Center, the Savior, of our marriage.
2) Moving away from our family. The hardest thing we ever did what probably what saved our marriage. We became depend on each other and not our family. I've said that for a long time. It was just too easy for me to run from Nick when problems arose. Living away from our family- there was nowhere to go but stick around!
Nick...well, he is easy to love. Nick is Nick- and he's OK with being himself which is a good thing because one of us in this couple needed to be comfortable with who they are (thank God, for God has changed my heart too- I am now comfortable in my own skin). He loves me with a love that is undoubtable. I am so thankful for his steadfast, enduring love. Nick is 110% supportive of me. Nick gives me to freedom to BE. To simply BE me. What more could a woman ask for? Nick, you are true treasure- I am so so so thankful to be yours! Thank you for rejoicing in me.
Proverbs 5:18
Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth.

27th Anniversary

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of everyday's
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with a passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, --- I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! --- and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

Grow old along with me!
The best is yet to be,
The last of life, for which the first was made:
Our times are in his hand
Who saith, "A whole I planned,
Youth shows but half; trust God: see all, nor be afraid
By Robert Browning 1864